Ambitious Women

I had a meeting this week with a woman who will be my mentor. She doesn’t know it yet. She thought we were having a one off meeting to talk about my career aspirations but the gag is, I already signed her up to be my professional coach. I just have to find a way to let her know. I welcome all suggestions.

While in the meeting, she asked me what I wanted to do next in my career. Then she asked me if I saw a void somewhere that I could fill. I just looked at her for a while. You know when someone asks you something you feel like you should know but you actually have no idea or you haven’t thought about it in the way it was asked and so you just stutter through a super whack answer? That was me. I did it throughout the entire meeting. I almost started to feel foolish, but I dismissed it. It was just the devil trying it. He stay trying me. Anyway, the meeting only confirmed that I need a mentor and also confirmed that she was the one.

I left wondering when we stop asking each other what we want to be when we grow up. It’s the go-to question for kids up until a certain age. Then I think we tell kids to pick a college major or a job and run with it. I wish I had continued asking myself what I wanted to be and then had the courage to pursue it.

Now, at almost 31 years old, I’m not completely sure what I want but I’m moving in the direction of what feels right. And one of the things that keeps me moving in that direction is the people I’m surrounded by right now. All of the people I spend a good amount of time with are ambitious little suckers. They all want to start something new, create, transform, reimagine, and alldat. The most dope thing is that almost all of my close friends and associates are women. They are wives and mothers. Or single mothers or single dog owners or just single. And they all want something they aren’t sure they can have but they’re trying anyway. They’ve started nonprofits, social organizations, blogs, vlogs. They’ve written books, taken speaking engagements, started businesses, run for office, gotten promotions, invested in real estate and start ups. They’re just so effing dope and I don’t know if I’m cool but I gotta be something if I’m friends with them, right?

The thing is they fail too. They try some stuff that doesn’t work the way they imagined and then they figure out how to make it work. Or they figure out it wasn’t meant to work at all. Either way, I feel blessed to have the insight. Now I know that success isn’t always a straight line. It ebbs and flows. It can look like people talking about you or it can feel like confusion or it can be a big fat struggle until it finally, finally feels like the ooey gooey good stuff they show us on TV.

So I worry less now. What’s mine is mine. God will cause the universe to respond to my effort. And if he doesn’t, I’ll just give up on life and move in with one of the ambitious women I know. No biggie.

Check out a few of my ambitious friends featured in the picture. Malaka is a fashion and lifestyle blogger (scalesofstyle.com) and Thallen has an etiquette blog (etichat.com). Dope right? I know, I know. We took over the Frist Museum last week. We were cute or whatever.

I'm Mariah. Jesus is my homie. I live in (and was raised in) the south. I am, as often as possible, actively grateful for my family because I understand their life giving power. Really dislike melodramatics. Really love reading and writing so much so that I aspire to be an author. What else?

13 comments on “Ambitious Women

  1. First, does your mentor have a sister? Asking for myself lol. It’s very important to have a mentor and I definitely need one. So glad you have so many supportive and DOPE women around you!!! Etiquette blog??? I definitely need to subscribe and read it.

  2. This was a great read, but nothing new about that. You definitely belong with the cool kids. You inspire me often. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Roshanda

    I love this and can completely agree! Same circumstances for me. I’m surround by a group of dope entrepreneur women from all walks of life & it’s intimidating but inspiring at the time. They make me say to myself, “Let me get on my ish! I’m not to be the only one w/nothing going.”
    I admire them b/c they went for theirs which required trial & effort. So… I’m encouraging you (and myself) to do the same! Also, I have an amazing mentor who I’m learning to use more often. Anywho…great blog & keep going girl. We’re doing something right by holding our own in these circles!❤️

    • My crew definitely keeps me on my toes. It’s a really good thing to stay motivated. Otherwise, I’d Netflix and chill far too often. Lol

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  5. We’re all searching for something… until you find whatever it is, just continue to dream, explore, and be great! You’re dope!

  6. Definitely something I need to get into, never thought to get a mentor but the more my life aligns with what God is leading me to do I think it wouldn’t be such a bad idea. Thanks for the read!

    • Yeah, I need to do a better job of being intentional about meeting with my mentor but it’s good to have someone a bit older and wiser to share insight.

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