Ok so you know how you’re going along in life being single and having girls’ night out and looking at pregnant women like, “how is she doing that right now?”
Or bam! You slip up on a few birth control pills and now you’re preggars!!!! Whoops!
Point is, you’ve somehow entered into an all of a sudden love. And sometimes it’s real messy. Like, you’re preggars, have no husband, have no husband prospects, and very little support. But that all of a sudden love in your stomach is coming in February whether you’re ready or not and you can’t help but grin when you think about it. Or like your old fling has had several flings in between and now has a reputation for being a low down dirty dog . . . that has fleas (better known as resentful baby mammas). But he’s your all of a sudden love and you’d rather spray the fleas for the rest of your life than be without him.
I mean, sometimes it’s wonderful too. Like, you dated some guy in undergrad and then broke up because he started acting a fool (as they usually do) and then ran into him 8 years later after his last serious girlfriend put in that work. (Shout out to the last girlfriend who gets him right for his wife to come along!) Or you find out you’re expecting and even though the timing might be a little off, you couldn’t think of a better man to raise children with and you’re actually excited to have a little dumpling.
I guess there’s really no point to this blog post except to see if I’m the only one who thinks it’s funny how those things happen so fast sometimes. Take one of my besties for example. We’ll call her Brown Politics. BP has pretty much been notoriously single since we’ve been friends. She has had a few lasting flings here and there, but I can never recall a time that she has been in love or anything too close. But now she has this new boo, and I think she might marry this man. I don’t mean to be presumptuous, but it could definitely happen. And now I’m all thrown off. My BP in a serious relationship? Married? Kids? Who is she now? Will she still be fun? Is she still serious about changing the world or will she stop to be a wife and mother? She bet’ not (not that there aren’t wives and mothers out there saving the world).
I’ve had a similar experience in my own life recently. Not one that I’m ready to debut, but it’s just happening so fast – kinda. The trajectory of my life has been altered a little. It’s still all good, of course. As it is in BP’s life as well. I still plan on joining her on the speaker circuit talking to young people about thinking outside of and beyond themselves, exciting revolutions, and being questioned by the CIA (kinda like Angela Davis but maybe not quite as extremist as her). I can see us both wearing fabulous wedding bands (I’m not even about to act like I don’t want a fabulous ring), tying babies across our chests, and asking our husbands if our ‘fros are picked out enough before heading out to conquer the world.
But dang, all of this happened so all of a sudden.